“I’m gettin’ a lil’ tired of your broken promises, promises…”
Y’all remember that song??? 3LW had middle school me hype! I was really out there singing (definitely off-key) to my (completely imaginary) boyfriend to get his (entirely hypothetical) shit together. 😂😂😂
Now, those three little women didn’t know what the hell they were singing about either. (Or maybe they were more sophisticated young adults than I was—who knows?) Either way, I appreciate the message behind the song in a way I couldn’t back then.
Sometimes, we stay in situations we know aren’t good for us. Whether it’s a job or a relationship or something else entirely, we stay because we feel comfortable. We stay because it’s what we know. We stay because we can’t imagine another way.
So we put up with the lies. The abuse. The broken promises, promises. We push aside our intuition and let the situation control us, instead of the other way around. Eventually, we find ourselves two options: stay or go.
Not an easy decision, but a necessary one.
Today, I stand at this crossroads. I can stay comfortable (and unhappy) where I am. I could journey to a new (scary and unknown) place.
I don’t know what to choose.
Without sharing too much, I’ve been in this situation for a long time time (over a decade actually). Many aspects of the situation are excellent, but a few key areas conflict with my personal values. I can choose to overlook those few things and just focus on the good, but that makes me feel like a fraud. I don’t want to lie to anyone, especially myself.
So here I am, between a rock and a hard place. I don’t know what I’m going to choose, but I do now this—I need to make a choice. Because as those three little women sang all those years ago…
“You do, or you don’t. You will, or you won’t.”
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A mantra I have been using a lot in therapy (because I love mantras and my awesome therapist knows it) is “if I don’t make the decision that is right for ME, who will?”
You’re an amazing, talented, intelligent person who deserves nothing but good things in life. Whatever decision you make, I hope you can make it with all the care and compassion for yourself I know you show others. We can all be our own biggest champions (it’s just a hell of a lot harder than being our own worst critics!)