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Somebody Loves You: A Quest for Patti LaBelle Pie
It happened so suddenly
I woke up one morning with you on my mind
No matter what I did
Couldn’t stop thinking about you
The words of Patti LaBelle’s Somebody Loves You never rang true for me…until now.
The Grammy award winning songstress recently showed off her baking skills by selling sweet potato pies in Wal-Mart stores. Many musicians have gotten into other businesses, such as makeup, fashion, and perfume lines, but few have had reactions like this.
After seeing this video (and the subsequent social media explosion) I knew I had to track me down a Patti pie. I woke up this morning with pie on my mind, y’all!
Here’s the story…
Sometimes, you need a dance party.
The past two weeks have been crazy busy. My stress level was on 10, y’all. Today at work I felt like my head was going to explode.
And then, I heard ‘Boyfriend’ by Justin Bieber.
Y’all might be thinking, “Welp, let me get a mop to clean up the head explosion. If she was on the edge before, surely Biebs gave the final push.”
NOPE. Turns out what I needed to alleviate my tension was a full-fledged, no shame in my game dance party. So that’s exactly what I had.
I body rolled in my foyer.
I twerked on my refrigerator.
I pop, locked, *and* dropped it in the middle of my living room and it felt f*cking fantastic. I feel so much better and am ready to conquer the last day of the work week.
Now if you’ll excuse me, Missy Elliott just dropped a new video and I have more booty shakin’ to do.
Nothing Less
Life is too short to waste time on those that don’t deserve it. Every person you hold dear should improve your life and make you a better person in some way. If they aren’t bothered with making time for you, keeping promises, or caring about your feelings, keep it moving. They don’t want to invest in you, so why should you invest in them?
It can be hard to end those relationships and sever those ties, but it must be done. You deserve to be surrounded by people who care about you and want to make you a better person, not those who only care when it’s convenient or beneficial to them. You are worthy of dedication, love, and respect.
Accept nothing less.
Back Here
It’s been a minute, hasn’t it?
My unplanned hiatus was filled with work, travel, and everything in between. I’ve had some awesome times in the past two months–I’ve cried more than once too–but overall I think I’m slowly getting myself to a better place.
Things I’ve worked on since I’ve been gone:
- Healthy eating: I’m cooking more at home and trying out new recipes
- Expanding the mind: I’ve committed to reading 30 minutes every day and keep a list of books to read
- Reconciling the past: I’ve started attending Al-Anon to deal with the impact of my father’s alcoholism (more in a future post)
- Interpersonal relationships: I’ve been spending more time with friends and trying to get out of the house more
- Self-esteem: I’m realizing that I am AWESOME, just the way I am
I’m also committing to blogging twice a week from here on out–I’ve even got a new app to help keep me on track. 🙂
So here’s to continued personal growth and loving me for me!
Equality (a video post)
Droppin’ some knowledge in my first video post! I promise I’ll do better with the lighting next time. Maybe I’ll even clean up the studio (a.k.a. my craft room) next time too! 🙂
Some nights…
…I just want silence. No tv, no phone, no distractions. Just a woman and what’s on her mind.
It seems as though people today are afraid of silence. We seek to fill every moment with something instead of taking the time to appreciate the stillness. Are we afraid of it, the thoughts and feelings that come when the world quiets? Or are we simply so used to a world full of noise that anything else seems unnatural?
Sometimes the most powerful revelations come in the quietest moments.
Food for Thought
Do you know how long it’s been since I cooked a meal for myself that wasn’t ramen or frozen pizza?
Yeah, me either.
Lately I’ve been so busy with work or friends that I haven’t had time to make dinner. If I did have time, I didn’t have the energy. Did I want to dirty a bunch of dishes and eat the same leftovers for days? Nope. Then all those days of eating dinner (and lunch…and breakfast) out hit my bank account and my waistline in a less-than-stellar way.
That changed today though. I made myself a meal–pork chops and green beans–and it was great. I stood right next to the stove and ate it. I barely got it on the plate! Having these leftovers for tomorrow actually sounds pretty good. Taking time to do something good for myself sounds even better.
Live Your Life
Today was an excellent day.
I worked, relaxed, and spent time with friends.
I did what I wanted when I wanted–no approval or advanced notice needed.
I lived my life. You should live yours too. We only get one ride on this pony, so we should at least make it a fun one. 🙂
Tooth Scary
I would say I’m sorry for the hiatus, but I’ve been out living life (and having a grand time doing it) so I don’t feel that bad about taking a blogging break–more details on my awesome adventures in a later post. 🙂 However, not every adventure since my last post has been awesome. Take, for example, today’s adventure–the dentist.
I have had dental anxiety for as long as I can remember (and apparently before then). My mom told me I had to be sedated at the dentist’s office as a child because I kicked, screamed, and fought. My memories consist of tears, sweating, and an overwhelming feeling of panic. This anxiety haunts me to this day. Literally. To this day–I’m writing this from the dentist’s office. Just a short time ago, I got so worked up about getting the Novocain that I had to get damn near topless I was sweating so much. I trembled like a leaf. My breath became shallow and my heart raced; I thought I was going to pass out.
See? Not happy.
Apparently, I’m not alone. Many Americans avoid going to the dentist because of anxiety. I don’t know what it is about being in the dentist’s chair that freaks me out so much. Actually, i *do* have a few ideas:
- I don’t like people putting their hands in my mouth. That seems very personal to me for some reason.
- Needles and sharp objects. Never been a fan of those, but once they’re in my mouth my stress level quadruples.
- The drilling. Oh, the drilling. It is irritating enough when it’s outside your office window. Even more so when it’s INSIDE YOUR HEAD.
- Smell and taste. Smells like a nail salon, tastes like a chemical cocktail. I actually gagged today because whatever they used for my filling got onto the back of my tongue.
- The cost. Not only do I have to suffer through #1-5, I have to give up all of my hard earned coin to do it!
I did some research and found that others feel anxious about going to the dentist for many of the same reasons I do. This is comforting; I’ve always felt like a freak for getting so worked up about sitting in the dentist’s chair. Luckily there are things one can do to cope with this fear, including (but not limited to) taking awesome care of your teeth so you don’t have to go to the dentist in the first place.
That’s going to be my new coping mechanism–brushing like a fiend, flossing like a champ, and waterpik-ing like nobody’s business! I’ll also keep seeing the awesome ladies at my dentist’s office–they are excellent at making me feel comfortable and calming me down if I panic.
Any of y’all get anxiety like this–not just the dentist, but with anything? If so, how do you cope?
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